Up The Middle

mood: contemplative

music: "We Die Young" Alice In Chains

So i read on someones profile today that said "I hate to leave people behind... But it's necessary." I don't know why it bothered me but it did, possibly because of the recent situtation with the girl, or maybe its b/c i've always felt like the one being left more than i have the one leaving. I didn't know this person so i'm not implying anything about them personally, just msuing on the statement.

I understand that through life sometimes people grow apart and we just lose touch. But this statement in my mind was an attempt to justify flakeyness. In my opinion if you really don't want to leave someone u put in the effort not to- sure u can't physically be there all the time, but thats the greatness of phones and the internet. If you constantly tell a person yr "too busy" or always have an excuse everytime they want to get together then maybe u need to reassess where their importance is in your life. I think in general this is a lot of society's problem, that ppl think its ok to leave ppl without explanation. To be friends for the moment instead of friends. 

My true friends come above family in a lot of cases, and i won't nessecarily drop everything for someone but i will always work someone that i care about in. However, far too many times someone in my life has treated me as though i was the lowest priority or just stopped trying for whatever reason. I don't want to be smothered, but i do want to feel like i'm important in some respect, that yr actually interested in hanging out and not paying lip service. Personally i don't think there are that many circumstances where it is "nessecary"  to leave someone behind, particularly without explanation which has been my experience. 

If you really do care about someone, if u honestly value them as a friend, and they always seem to have time for u then don't treat them like they are a convenience or fairweather, make them feel like they have a place in yr life- take a little time for them. It might be ok for the ones who are leaving, but it hurts like hell to be left for no apparent reason at all.